One of the recurring conversations I have with my clients revolves around their telling me how they wish their spouses and children would listen and help out when they say things like:
- Don’t leave your clothes lying on the floor.
- Don’t leave your stuff lying around the house for everyone to trip over.
- Don’t leave your homework until the last minute.
The problem with “don’t” instructions is that they leave the recipient with no solutions. They do not know what the person giving the instruction wants them to do. They know only what they shouldn’t be doing.
Productivity tip: Provide solutions by giving instructions where specific actions are required.
- Put your dirty clothes in the laundry hamper.
- Put your things away where they belong. If you don’t know where they belong, let’s work out the best place for all the stuff.
- Work out a schedule for getting your homework done on time. If you would like help setting up your planner, ask me.
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