Games provide opportunities for developing social skills: play fair, be nice, include everyone. One of my favorite childhood games was Stuck in the Mud.
However, in the world of decluttering and organizing, “play fair, be nice, include everyone” leave many of my clients figuratively stuck in the mud. They become immobilized when they have to make decisions and choose their favorites. It is as if their internalized childhood social skills are transferred to inanimate objects.
These clients lament the fact that they feel overwhelmed by the amount of stuff in their homes; that it feels like their homes are closing in on them. Yet they are unable to make choices. The decluttering and organizing process is a constant struggle for them as they choose favorites that best represent their collections, their interests, and their lifestyles and let go of things that are not relevant to their lives.
Decluttering roadblock: Fear of choosing favorites.
Solution: Give yourself permission to choose and keep only favorites because:
- if everything is important, nothing is important
- organizing clutter is not a productive use of your time.
When you are stuck in the quagmire of decision-making, ask yourself:
- If your best friend were in your situation, what advice would you give her?
- Would you buy this item today if you didn’t have it?
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