- self-trust with regard to their own decision-making skills
- interpersonal trust with family members.
It can be difficult to move forward if you don’t trust yourself or the people who matter most to you. Change is not easy, but stagnation is neither energizing nor motivating. It is time to break the cycle of mistrust.
Five trust-building steps
- Be consistent: Make the commitment to be consistent when you establish an organizing or time-management system. If something has to be done on a daily basis, do it. Routines are habit forming when you are consistent. And when you are consistent, you are reliable and your family will learn to trust your decisions because they know that you will follow through on your promises.
- Set an example: Being a leader in your family means setting an example, no matter how hard is.
- Tell the truth: Admit to yourself and to your family when things are not going as planned with new systems. Just because you started with plan A doesn’t mean you can’t make adjustments or changes. It’s OK for children to see that grown-ups are comfortable making mistakes and are willing to make changes to improve things.
- Find value in each family member: Identify each family member’s organizing and time-management strengths. Be open to asking for and accepting help and advice. Family unity and trust is built when everyone feel valued.
- Untie the apron strings: Be there to guide and help when an organizing or time-management system is set up and avoid micromanaging once everything is running as smoothly as possible. Trust that you have instilled in your children the ability to trust themselves and their decision-making and execution skills.
© Image courtesy of Nutdanai Apikhomboonwaroot / FreeDigitalPhotos.net
[This article, Family Organization and Time Management: 5 Steps to Build Trust, was originally published by Time Timer.]
My clients often feel overwhelmed by the deluge of stuff that impinges on their physical space, their mental space, and their time. They feel they are constantly reacting to things instead of feeling like they are proactively planning ahead and taking control of situations.
Are you reactive or proactive when:
- Mail comes through the front door?
- Email arrives in your inbox?
- Stuff comes home from work?
- The laundry hamper is full?
Steps to being proactive vs. reactive:
- Calendar and complete tasks with fixed deadlines: Schedule and do the things that have to be done within their designated time frame. You probably don’t want to be scrambling at the last minute to sign up for health-care benefits.
- Create plans with clear procedures and checklists for repeated tasks: Making dinner, doing laundry, and paying bills and taxes all happen on a regular basis – whether it is daily, weekly, monthly or annually. Remove repetitive decision-making out of the process by having checklists.
- Set up a maintenance schedule: Build a maintenance phase into your planning and routines. If you have to file paperwork on a regular basis, build a maintenance phase into your process.
- Delegate tasks: With procedures and checklists in place (see point 2), you can hand off tasks and free yourself up to do something else that needs to be prioritized.
When you are able to check off all the things you have to do, you may just find time to start doing the things you would love to do!
It is all about:
- developing schedules and routines
From my experience, organization = 25% physical organization + 75% time management:
- Decide on a regular maintenance schedule (this could be, for example, a daily 10-minute tidy-up or a weekly tidy-up for 30 minutes).
- Use a timer when you are organizing. I love the Time Timer. It shows the passing of time and buzzes when the time is up, which is great for both visual and auditory learners.
Thank you Time Timer for donating one of your products! The contest winner was thrilled to receive her Time Timer!
Photo credit: © Paula Berman Organizing
Peer into the pockets of a 6-year-old child and you’ll discover the collections that reflect his interests: the sticks, the pebbles, the marbles, and other miscellaneous knickknacks of youth; although you’re realistically more likely to discover these items clanking around in your clothes dryer. Who forgot to check pockets yet again before throwing the clothes into the laundry hamper?
What were in your ‘pockets’ 15 years ago, 10 years ago, 5 years ago, last year? You had hopes, you had dreams, you had aspirations. And then you had to graduate from college, find a job, pay bills, and the list goes on.
Don’t allow your dreams to fall by the wayside.
Productivity tip: Create structure in your life with routines and habits. Contrary to popular perception, routines and habits are not the enemies of creativity. Designate daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly times to do the things you have to do like pay taxes, have your car serviced, schedule dentist appointments, do the laundry, and grocery shopping. Be pleasantly surprised by how this frees up your time to do the things you like and want to do.Image courtesy of sirikul/FreeDigitalPhotos.net